Breaking the Hurt Spiral

Things to keep in mind with feelings:

  • Behind every feeling and/or behavior is a need.
  • Feelings are neither right nor wrong.
  • There is more than one way to do things.

The hurt spiral is when we claim the right to hurt our partner and justify it because we’ve been hurt, intentionally or unintentionally. What can we do when we are first hurt? How can we avoid the Hurt Spiral and spiraling down to a detrimental and vicious cycle of communication?