Self-Reflecting Questions:

• Do I take responsibility in letting my partner know that I feel there is a problem between us?
• Do I turn disagreements into a power struggle to get my way?
• Do I cloud the issue by dredging up past grievances and mixing a lot of issues together?
• Am I willing to compromise?
• Do I refuse to discuss/deal with issues/problems for which my partner has expressed concern or disagreement?
• Do I do everything I can to encourage calm decision and mutual decisions?

• Building a Climate of Respect
• Ending the Blame Game
• Understanding Expectations
• Redefining the Power Struggle
• Coping with Control Issues
• Listening Beyond the Words
• Appreciating Personality Differences
• Recognizing Childhood and Emotional Baggage
• Handling Anger Constructively
• Speaking the Truth in Love
• Learning How to Fight Fair
• Breaking the Hurt Spiral
• Forgiveness and Repair
• Rebuilding Trust