Breaking the Hurt Spiral

We want to be careful here (as in all workshops) that we do not sound too self-righteous. It is important that we admit that we, too, are part of the human family and have been reactive. “Hurting back” or “getting even” (or vengeance, as we might say) is almost a reflex for most human beings. It is a continuation of our instinct for self-defense or survival.

The point is, IT DOESN’T WORK in relationships. When we “repay tit for tat,” we are repeatedly dealing death blows to the relationship. If we really care about the relationship (and our spouse), we simply cannot afford the “luxury” of indulging in the hurt spiral because it will make whatever problems we already have much worse. It has been said that at all times we are either building UP a relationship or tearing it DOWN. And we may reach a “point of no return.”

This presentation seeks to identify and explain the dynamics of the “hurt spiral.” Participants learn why it is the most destructive pattern of all and what to do to stop the downward spiral.