Ending the Blame Game

This workshop gets into the issues of dependency, blame, projection, etc. For simplification, we have divided it into two sides of responsibility: over and under. Under responsibility occurs where one or both partners avoid responsibility by continually pointing the finger of blame at their spouse (i.e., projection) and hence refusing to face their own contribution to the problem. (Problems are rarely I00% fault of one spouse).

The under-responsible person(s) (blamer) is encouraged to begin making self the target of any improvement campaign and to stop playing The Blame Game. The Blame Game is shown to be ineffective for problem-solving and destructive to a relationship.

The goal of this workshop is to demonstrate that a marriage can be off-balance in either of two extremes: under-responsibility or over-responsibility. Either is unhealthy for the marriage. The solution is for each partner to become more fully responsible for self and only self.